Warm S**’ Is The Hot New Bedroom Trend Everyone Is Obsessed With

What is ‘warm s**’ – and why are experts saying it’s even better than hot s**?

When we think about intimacy, it’s often portrayed as something fast-paced, fiery, and intense, the steamier, the better.

Popular media encourages us to seek out thrilling and passionate encounters, reinforcing the belief that ‘hot s**’ is the gold standard

But is this constant need for intensity possibly getting in the way of truly fulfilling intimacy?

Some educators think so. In fact, many are beginning to suggest dialing down the heat just a bit and embracing what’s being called ‘warm s**.’

Though the term may sound underwhelming at first, ‘warm s**’ isn’t about losing excitement.

Instead, it’s a different approach, one that emphasizes connection, presence, and emotional intimacy

The concept originates from the S**ological Bodywork healing model, and it encourages people to move away from high-intensity encounters and explore slower, more conscious forms of intimacy.

According to psychologist and relationships adviser Barbara Santini from Peaches and Screams, per Glamour: “’Warm s**’ is about slowing down, connecting deeply and savouring every moment.

“It’s not just about the physical act. It is about nurturing emotional intimacy, which is the bedrock of any strong relationship

Whereas hot s** often centers on urgency and climax, ‘warm s**’ invites partners to linger, talk, touch, and truly enjoy each other without pressure.

Picture a quiet Sunday afternoon with nowhere to be, with laughter, cuddling, extended foreplay, and a sense of being fully present with your partner.

There are several benefits to this softer approach.

Santini notes that this style of intimacy can support both relational and individual well-being.

“I see it as a gentle balm for the soul, soothing anxieties and fostering a sense of security,” she says. “Warm s** can reduce stress, boost self-esteem, and strengthen bonds.”

Beyond emotional closeness, warm s** may also enhance physical pleasure.

“When we prioritize connection over quick gratification, we open ourselves up to a world of pleasure and fulfilment that goes far beyond the physical,” she adds.

This can be especially important given the persistent ‘o**asm gap’ in heteros**ual relationships, where significantly fewer women climax compared to men.

As Santini’s perspective suggests, slowing down may help close that gap by making room for better communication, more foreplay, and deeper understanding.

To incorporate warm s** into your routine, Santini suggests setting the scene to foster calm and comfort

Dim the lights, light some candles, play soft music, anything that creates a serene atmosphere,” she recommends.

Once you’re there, focus on exploring one another with no rush and no goal beyond connection.

“Slow down, focus on touch and communicate openly with your partner,” she says. “Share your desires, fantasies, and any insecurities. Vulnerability is key.”

As Santini puts it: “It’s about embracing your unique desires and celebrating your bodies